The big day

On the day of the move, follow the person's normal routine as much as possible. If you can, handle the move during the person's typical best time of day — whether it's in the morning or the afternoon. Or you might consider having friends or family take the person out for the day so you can complete the move.

While you're moving, do your best to stay positive. Try not to argue with the person about why he or she needs to move. Your attitude can help the person with dementia feel safe and secure in the new environment.

If the person is moving into a care facility, once the person is settled trust the staff to help with the next big step — your departure. Rather than making a big deal about your leaving, the staff might engage the person in a meaningful activity while you walk away.

Leaving a person with dementia in a care facility might be difficult for you — both on the day of the move and in the weeks and months that follow. Feelings of grief, loss, relief and guilt are normal. Make sure you have someone to support you on moving day. A social worker might be able to help.

It might take time for the person with dementia to get used to his or her new living arrangement. Be patient. If the person is living in your home, tell him or her that you're glad about the move because it means spending more time together. If the person is living in a care facility, visit often and encourage friends and family to do the same. Extra care and attention can help make the new place a home.